The Strength of Renewing Your Heart and Mind
To be a woman is to be strong. To be a fatherless woman, is to be even stronger. As fatherless women, we share a similar pain. I know this pain well, and I know the weight of the burdens we carry around with us. Being a fatherless woman, I know I have faced some of the symptoms of Fathers Daughter Syndrome. I know I have dealt with fear of abandonment, higher levels of frustration and anger, low self-esteem and depression, etc. All these are symptoms we face are a direct result of being a fatherless woman. I once believed that I was not worthy of love. I believed that my father left me because I was not good enough. I let myself feel worthless, angry, sad, depressed. Now I know, that I was wrong.
It is time we forgive ourselves. We cannot change the past, we cannot change the deck of cards we’ve been dealt in this life. However, we can change how we view it all. I am working on forgiving myself for how I handled the past. I was so hard on myself. I let the pain of my father leaving me control my outlook on life. I know now that it is time for me to release that pain, and forgive myself. Forgiving myself is complicated, I did not directly cause this pain. I did not intend to cause pain onto myself. But I allowed the pain I felt from my father leaving turn into another pain all on its own. However I am working on this. Here is the number one thing I have found to be helpful on my journey to forgiving myself:
Focus on renewing your heart and mind
Focusing on renewing your heart and mind allows us to acknowledge the past, and ways we might have hurt ourselves. However it also allows us to then focus on bettering ourselves for the future. I have found this extremely helpful because it allows me to feel a connection to who I was, and who I want to be. The journey to forgiving ourselves might be the most important journey yet. This journey has brought me closer to my spiritual self. I know that in forgiving myself, I can continue to grow and move forward in my journey to overcoming fatherlessness.
